It wasn’t until I decided to marry again that I realized how completely uncertain and illogical marriage is. The second time around, you can’t hide behind romantic innocence. You already know how easy it is to take another person for granted. You know how hard it is to live with someone else: to build intimacy over years, to grow without stealing all the available sunlight and food, or to simply like that other person day in and day out despite chore wars, seat-up/seat-down debates, and other domestic disputes such as appropriate use of mayonnaise in sandwich-making (never versus always). The second time around, you already know how easy it is to fail. [more…]
To all my new writer friends in Japan, you might want to check out this upcoming conference, October 29 and 30, to be held at Tokushima University. Free and open to anyone wishing to attend, it offers workshops, panels, and some (not free) social gatherings that involve food and drink….
“You can only write regularly if you’re willing to write badly. You can’t write regularly and well.” ~ Jennifer Egan @brevitymag
“John, a lily-gilder, decided to let the next round of meat cure. Fresh sausage was child’s play, as he saw it; he wanted the challenge of layering in this more sophisticated technique. I heard him grumble now and then about humidity and temperature concerns—both hard to control in our drafty 1906 house—but beyond that, I paid little mind. Until the beagle went missing. ” [more…]